“There is a thought in your mind right now. The longer you hold onto it, the more you dwell upon it, the more life you give to that thought. Give it enough life and it will become real. So make sure the thought is indeed a great one.”
-Ralph Marston.

Most of our self talk comes unconsciously from our subconscious. Yet every thought that exists in our subconscious got there through a conscious decision to accept that thought.
Confusing, ehhhhhhhhhh?
Well lemme put it in a simpler way...
We need to work on what we think cuz it’s these thoughts that you put into action and thus obtain the result.
We need to become conscious of our self talk so we can at will choose to replace negative beliefs with positive ones. we have the power to choose an identity we love, but we need to do the work. The process of changing our subconscious beliefs requires awareness, diligence, consistency and repetition.

Wud wanna add what William James once said, “man is made or unmade by himself. In armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself. he also fashions the tools by which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace.”